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My Lesbian Sister

The following was submitted to Islam Online's Cyber Counselors, and their reply is below.

What advice do you have for my gay sister? I am a practicing Muslim who is deeply concerned about my sister. She has stated that she is not a Muslim and that she is a lesbian. She does not want to marry and wants to have artificial insemination done so that she can have a child after she "marries" her female partner.

I am extremely disturbed by her behavior. She is also not on speaking terms with me since I have told her that her way of life is Haraam.

Islam clearly forbids homosexuality and lesbianism. There can be no compromise on this subject. However, you should not abandon your sister as this is the time she needs you the most. She is lost and is desperately in need of Allah's guidance. If you leave her to be led by her desires, she is sure never to try to even return to the straight path.

We strongly suggest that if you cannot appeal to her common senses, then try to seek help of someone who is close to your sister and who would be able to talk to her about her sinful behavior. The tone of the conversation should not be damning and pessimisstic but rather a tone filled with optimism and hope for Allah's never ending mercy. Of course, your sister will also need lots of support from you as she attempts to give up her lesbian lifestyle. Be there for her. Make du'a for her. Give her the glad tidings of Allah's mercy and compassion for those who turn away from sin and repent sincerely.

Please write to us and insha'allah we can also help you to continue in your efforts to help your sister. There are resources to help people to give up their homosexual behavior and to return to a heterosexual lifestyle.